Tuesday, 13 August 2013

LIFE


6 months ago, the life i had known for 4 years came to end. It meant leaving Leeds, moving in with two friends back home and trying to make a new life for myself the best way i could whilst trying to work everything in my head out. Although it was 100% the right thing to do, it's been challenging and I questioned almost everything in my life and where i wanted it to go, and even this blog. Don't get me wrong, I've had the most amazing half a year too, I've been on 3 holidays, bought a new car, partied until the sun came up, laughed until I've cried and met some of the most amazing people imaginable. But whilst these incredible things have been happening, I've always felt pretty lonely too. I never understood feeling lonely whilst being surrounded by people but you really can, to the point where it can make you cry. I thought the best thing to do was to meet people, go on dates and find someone to make me feel together again. There was someone, and for a while i was happy but circumstances out of our control meant this wasn't to be and so once again i'm by myself again. But you know what, that's really ok. Like so so so ok. I've finally realised that you don't need anyone to make you happy, you can make yourself happy. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, visit new places, do something that scares you and just live every day as if it's your last. The longest relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself so it's important to get that right first. I know one day i'll have that uncontrollable love, and 'the one' is out there somewhere but until then i'm going to have fun on my own and have my own adventures, make some amazing memories and i'm really excited about this. I know i'll have my bad days, but as long as you have people to fall on to pick you up again then you'll be ok, because it's all you can be. 

''To actually live is courageous, most people exist. That is all.'' 

 
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42 comments

  1. How true that quote is, makes you think. :)

    Jen x
    jenniferelka.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. Very true, I wish you all the happiness in the future! x

    Maddy from UNSTITCHEDD 

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  3. Oh Victoria, I miss you girl!

    Completely agree with all the words in this post, I've just had the most horrendous 7 weeks but things are finally looking up, and I'm coming round to the idea that one day, things are going to work out for me, it's just taking a scenic route ;) xxxx

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  4. A seriously beautiful post and something to really think about, thanks lovely xx

    www.whatsnewpussycatt.blogspot.co.uk

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  5. I loved this post. I also think you look gorgeous in the pictures!


    www.aztecmess.com

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  6. This is such a beautiful post, so honest! I love the quote at the end!
    xx

    girlwithclothes.blogspot.com

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  7. hell yes victoria, i couldn't agree more. in the words of rupaul 'if you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else' xx

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  8. Agree with everything you've said! Really liked this post.

    Beauty and Lifestyle Blog

    xx

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  9. I can empathise with this completely , love that you've been brave enough to post xx

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  10. Amazing post, you have to live your life to the maximum!
    Whether you have someone or not.

    darlingsophie.blogspot.co.uk

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  11. Great post, that quote is so inspirational xo

    http://prettypetticoats.blogspot.co.uk/

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  12. This post has really made me think, love that quote too. xo

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  13. You really seem like you are having the best time of your life right now! go lady!
    cowbiscuits

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  14. How true is this.
    My reasonings for never getting into a relationship because they can truly break you down for a while.
    Nice to see that you've picked your self back up!
    x
    Velia | Cocoamourr

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  15. Amazing, you've come out the other side wonderfully! :-)

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  16. I'm exactly the same as you at the moment, I've just come out of a break up and for once I've realised actually it's ok and there's no point in spending my time angry. So I'm enjoying my life

    Thegirlwithtoomanyclothes.blogspot.co.uk

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  17. What a beautiful post! I was brave enough to break up with my horrible ex in January and although it took a while, I finally felt like it was okay to be alone and just be me. Now i'm in the best place ever and I couldn't be happier!

    I wish you all the best :) xx

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  18. Lovely quote.
    I am so glad to hear you're in a good place and enjoying yourself! x

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  19. Such a lovely insightful post, being happy with your own company is such a hard thing to learn!

    xx
    www.bethanymaeetc.blogspot.co.uk

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  20. So, so well said. Glad things are working out ok lovely :)
    Kaz at Sunshine Days x

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  21. I love this post so so much, I came out of a 3 and a half year relationship a few months ago and it was/is so hard, it's so uplifting to see how well you're getting on. Hope you're well!

    Chloe xxxx

    www.underestimatethegirl.blogspot.co.uk

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  22. Good luck honey you deserve to be happy!

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  23. Good luck honey you deserve to be happy!

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  24. Good on you love, i know the feeling as this year has kinda been the same for me. The best relationship you can have is with yourself :) enjoy your time love, will be the best time of your life xxxx

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  25. You are very right. You don't need anyone to make you happy. I have a boyfriend of six years and a cute little boy, and a dog too if we are counting him, but that can be tough too. I never planned for W so I feel a lot like I had to change my life overnight and I'm so lucky, but I do long for the days where I used to be free to live my life a bit more. I'd not change where I am for the world, but you have a chance to do all of the things you want to do and you can do it for yourself. Congrats again on the weight loss by the way. I'm one of those girls who is just insanely jealous of what you have achieved but I know it rests with me. xx

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  26. Thank you for this post, it is so truthful and beautifully written x

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  27. I'm so happy for you that you've reached this point in your life. A few months ago I wrote a post on self acceptance as well, my philosophy has always been that if you can't love yourself no one else will either. It's so important to be happy and comfortable with yourself and feel confidant. I'm so glad you feel this way because you are a wonderful person!
    xxx
    Nina from little nomad

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  28. Inspiring post! <3

    www.skinandroses.blogspot.co.uk

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  29. Your so inspirational, because of you I joined slimming world and I'm slowly starting to gain confidence. You've done more in six months than some people can do in a few years! Thankyou
    catrinteleri.blogspot.co.uk

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  30. Around the same time as you I had a similar thing happen to me and although I went through so much pain and hurt it was probably the best thing that has ever happened to me and I haven't been this happy in so long. I think things are meant to be and things do get better! :)

    xxx

    www.studdedkisses.co.uk

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  31. Aww sounds like it has very an incredible tough time, I know exactly how you feel.

    Big hugs

    xoxo One Stiletto At a Time fashion and beauty blog

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  32. This is awesome. I love this post. I am so happy that you've found "you" and are enjoying life. You can literally tell from your face in those photos.

    Beth // SansSouci

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  33. You come across as a very strong, independent woman. This is how you need to see for yourself. You can do and achieve anything you want. The world is your oyster and it better watch out! :)
    All the best. Head up, keep smiling, be happy.

    Caroline.x

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  34. I really identified with this post..

    what you said 'the longest relationship you will have, will be with yourself' has really stuck with me

    I've been a regular reader of your blog for a while now and I just love your posts,

    I've just started a new blog where I find cheap Ebay fashion, I would love it if you dropped by:)

    http://finditfashion.blogspot.co.uk/

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  35. Thank you so much for this post Victoria! I have lost just over 2 stone is year myself but after hitting my goal recently I've fallen off the wagon a little! This post has inspired me to kick start again and get down to my second goal! You've also shown me that you can still be healthy whilst having a few cheeky drinks and pizzas in moderation! You look fabulous and are a true model for being healthy, happy and taking control of your own life! Many thanks :) x

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  36. This is such a wonderful post <3 thank you for sharing. I can relate to this so much :) xox

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