Saturday, 10 March 2012

THIS HAS TO STOP!


This is something I’ve wanted to write for a really long time, but I always stopped myself and thought no, you’re giving them exactly what they want. But as I’m sat here, literally about to cry, I think now has come the time to address this from my point of view.

I’m talking about appearance hate.

For a long time, years in fact, I’ve received hate. I know I’m not the first blogger to receive nasty comments and unfortunately I won’t be the last. It could be anything from a rude comment on a blog post, a back handed tweet or just a plain and simple ‘I hate you’ formspring comment. At first they would bother me, I’d question myself and not want to blog anymore, but of course, after a while you do get ‘used to it’ and you find it funny. You laugh it off. You carry on.

But when they start to pick on things and make a joke about something that’s really personal to you, that’s when it starts to get to a whole new level. It’s not funny anymore, it’s damn right painful to read.

Over the past few months the hate I’ve been receiving about my weight has increased. At first it was just typical comments about what size I am, what do I eat etc etc but then they slowly started turning in to pure venom to a point where I would read it and not actually believe what I was reading. There’s been a lot of comments I’ve received which I haven’t included in the image at the top because well, they’re just too spiteful. But I’m pretty sure you can get an idea.

The first thing you’ll say is ignore it. In a perfect world that would be the best thing to do. But believe me, when you’re getting X amounts of comments daily, some will hit a nerve and some will gain a reaction. I’m only human, I feel the need to stick up for myself, just like you would in the same situation. By doing this I bring attention to it, I encourage more hate but you just think to yourself, if someone said something about the thing you hate most ,how easy would you find it to ignore?

The next thing you’ll say is take anon off. Isn’t that a lovely thought? But what about the genuine people, who are too shy to ask something? Or are too embarrassed using their real name? I like helping people out, I love answering their beauty/fashion questions and I love finding items they’ve been looking for the most. So why should I take that away because of someone who doesn’t play nice?

But unfortunately that time has come, for a little while anyway.

The comments I have received about my weight have upset me a lot, there I’ve said it. Every time I’ve read something about an outfit I’ve worn or how overweight I look it honestly makes me want to delete the picture there and then. It has also made me want to take a break from outfit posts. Something which I’m probably going to do now. I even filmed a video today, but after getting the last comment in the pic, i thought why the hell should i?

If I was a bitch I would welcome the hate, but all I do is blog. I’m not nasty, or rude, all I do is post outfit pics, beauty reviews and a post filled with designer inspired items you’ve asked me to find. What do I do to gain so much hate about how I look? And you know what the worst thing is, these people follow me. They’ve probably tweeted me, they’ve probably left me a lovely comment on m blog and they’re probably reading this now.

I’m not writing this for attention, I don’t want you to ‘feel sorry’ for me or tell me ‘oh it’s just jealousy’ and I certainly don’t want the anons to feel like they’ve ‘won’ but i needed to address this. I wanted to show you the kind of abuse I receive on a daily basis and how much hate ONE person can receive in such a short amount of time, just for having a blog.

I would also like to apologize for every time I’ve tweeted/posted on tumblr a reply to rude ask I’ve been sent. I know it can be annoying and I know I’ve probably lost a lot of followers from it. I’m sure I will from this too. But I just hope most of you understand where I’m coming from and know how important this post is to me.

My final message would be to those who have replied to my hate with dignity, love and support. Without you guys I think I would have given up blogging a long time ago, so I thank you for that. I will be blogging this week, but it certainly won’t be from a personal point of view. This has all knocked my confidence sideaways and I need some time to sort all that out. I hope you understand.

Big love to my genuine readers, and massive fuck you to the haters.
This is the first and last time you will ever be on my blog.

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225 comments

  1. Good for you! And stick with what you love doing.
    I actually started following you're blog because you are a bit curvier (please dont take that the wrong way, i dont mean it as an insult) I'm fed of seeing really skinny girls everywhere. Why should they be the only ones to enjoy and look good in fashion?!
    I think you're setting a really good example and you shouldnt let weight get you down!
    Keep at it chick :)

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  2. Oh Victoria! People are just spiteful, pathetic bitches. Your blog and style are AMAZING! xxx

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  3. Reading this makes me sad. Mostly because the hate has gotten to you! I understand you, i would feel the same way... And this must be very hard for you. But know that you have so many readers that do love you, follow you, appreciate everything you do. Ive been bloggjng for a while now but dont post outfits, not that im fat (and neither are you, for fucksake you have a normal body) but im just afraid of people constantly fucking judging. People are rude and hide behind internet. I guess i just want to say that I hope you see that lots of people care, even tho we dont really "know" you. I hope you find the courage to outfit post again cause i think its a big inspiration for so many people!!

    I love your blog! Keep your head up high.

    Maaike

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  4. I genuinely cannot believe you get comment like that!
    You are a beautiful girl, with amazing fashion sense that give your time and effort to help girls like me with beauty/fashion advice.
    I understand that you must feel really hurt right now but don't listen to them fucking bullies - they don't even know you you!
    We are here for you and I'm glad you have written this.. More bloggers need to speak about the hate they recieve so Bloggers and Non-bloggers alike can stop this unnessary hatred.
    Much love!
    xo

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  6. It makes me proud to be part of the blogging community to have someone like you in it, standing up to this. People are trying to bring someone down who truly doesn't deserve it. Carry on being you, the rest of us love you for it <3
    Claire
    xox

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  7. For what it's worth, I think you're stunning and genuinely love your posts! Your blog is a pleasure to read and I am so pleased and proud that you aren't letting these pathetic creatures stop you. xxxx

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  8. so proud you posted this xxx

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  9. I've seen a lot of hate sprawling itself across the internet and within blogging but it never prepares you. Every time I hear about it or see comments such as those you've included I'm shocked. I couldn't even imagine someone saying that to someone's face. I guess, all I really want to say is, do what you feel is best for you because the people that love you and your blogging will always be here! xo

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  10. Gosh, I didn't realise the hate you got was so awful :(
    People are just shocking some times.Haters like this have made me stop blogging for a while,but hopefully I can get back to it, with the influence of your courage and honesty.
    I hope you'll get back to outfit posting again soon,as I love your style and have serious envy...hahaha!
    Keep going girl, knowing people like us love ya! xx

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  11. <3 such a shame for you, none should have to be put through this especially when all your doing is blogging. It really is ridiculous, it's cyber bullying and the people who have done this to you should be ashamed. Hope it stops.

    Ginger Pickle ♥

    x

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  12. I totally agree with you, that sometimes you just can't ignore it, sometimes the hate is just so unjustified and hurtful that you genuinely feel the need to defend yourself. I seriously don't understand why people can be so amazingly cruel and spiteful for no reason. I really respect you for showing a venerable side of yourself, it's never easy and I will be here to read your blog when you feel ready to get back. HUGE HUGS xxxxxxxx

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  13. The unfounded hate that you get has really put me off blogging. I honestly think you're so strong and brave, you've handled things with so much more grace than I could have. I really hope you realize that for every pathetic hater there is there's a hundred girls who are inspired by you! I think you're gorgeous and it makes me hate the world a bit that people spend time trying to hurt you when you've been nothing but helpful and lovely.

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  14. I have no words, but just know you have loyal readers who think you are beautiful! X

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  15. There's something about the internet, and anonymity that turns some people into disgusting creatures.
    I love your blog, and I love seeing someone that represents the size I am, and seeing your confidence in fashion gives me and I'm sure others confidence!
    I love reading your blog, don't change a thing!

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  16. Absolutely stoked & proud that you stood up & had your say on this. It takes a lot to breath in & deal with it, rather than just pushing it all away. Just know that you have beauty not only outside, but within too - a heck of a lot more than those cowards (although I could think of worse c-words) have.

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  17. Oh my god, I can't beleive how horrible people can be over literally nothing! Hope it all gets better for you though :) xx

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  18. This is ridiculous!
    I can't believe some people will go out of their way to harass you over your personal appearance!

    I've been harassed on places like tumblr and to be honest i've now stopped using it because of that reason!

    These people are pathetic!

    http://tracksforlife.blogspot.com

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  19. Well said. They don't deserve a second of your time but they do deserve to be shown as the bullies they really are.

    Keep blogging! We love you!

    xxxx

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  20. They are just jealous! Let em sweat! Keep doing your thing girl!
    x

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  21. Oh my goodness, this is the kind of thing that puts me off making a bloody youtube channel! Im not thin by any means so I think I would get ripped to shreds! :( There are some seriously sick people on the internet who just hide behind fake usernames and fake profiles/ profile pictures! x x

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  22. I'm glad you posted this I think it is fantastic and very strong. It just shows how ugly people can be, I find it so hard to comprehend what goes through these people's head. I always like to think about Roald Dahl's 'The Twits' when I get nasty comments online or in real life, the more ugly thoughts you have he more ugly you become, until well you look like the twits :). Anyway I love your blog and your outfit posts and your fashion sense and so on and so forth. xxx

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  23. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I don't really understand how anyone can have so much free time on their hands that they decide to spend it trolling people on the internet. I hardly get the time to leave positive comments!

    I hope you can find the strength to move on from it and carry on with your blog as it is, because its honestly great. So you're not a size zero supermodel. I for one wouldn't read your blog if you were, how boring, another stick insect with no personality. You are an ordinary person, like the majority of the world are 'just' ordinary people. We have similar body shapes (although you're definitely a lot smaller than me!) and so I love your fashion posts, I love seeing how you dress to flatter our shared shape because it gives me a lot of inspiration.

    I hope you can get past all this spite and vitriol.

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  24. it honestly unbelievable how anyone thinks it is acceptable to barrage someone with streams of insults. You don't deserve any of this Victoria - good for you for standing up against them. You should be so proud of yourself. You are such a beautiful person and feel very happy to have met you - I think you're lush xx

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  25. Really crap at writing comments so going to keep this short and sweet. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. For every person that says a comment like that, there's probably 10 people that think the exact opposite. I think you have a really good sense of style and you look good! Yes your not super skinny but who said you have to be that to look good? Your relateable, have a fab personality and to me that is what shines through. So much for short and sweet! x

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  26. Aww Victoria please just keep doing what you always do. These people sound like right planks they are probably only children and have not learnt this sort of thing is not on yet. There are also a lot of people who enjoy your blog, your outfits and everything else you post so keep blogging like you usually do for them xx

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  27. So glad that you posted this. It is so unbelievably hard to get constant hate and not have it affect you - it can be soul destroying. Thank you for sharing this, it needed to be said..just know that we are all behind you, and you are beautiful, inside and out. Fuuuu haters :) x

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  28. I absolutely love you, Victoria! You deserve the biggest round of applause and a standing ovation for what you just said!
    You are absolutely amazing, and don't think otherwise. Your blog is truly successful and I honestly want to be like you one day!
    You're gorgeous and I envy it. I really do!
    I'm constantly being harassed indirectly but it's clearly obvious that it's about me. I try to shrug it off, but like you, I do feel the need to stick up for myself and what not. But giving them the time of day is absolutely not worth it! But to express and lay it out like this, it was well said!
    Keep doing what you're doing because you are absolutely incredible, Victoria! X

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  29. You are so amazing and beautiful. I love your blog!

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  30. I can't actually believe those are genuine comments that you've received, and that there have been worse!

    Good on you for addressing these trolls.

    Please don't let them get you down.

    I know you said you weren't posting this for this type of reaction but these people really are just jealous. Some idiots just get their kicks from making others feel bad, as absolutely pathetic as that is.

    I can see the number of wonderful, supportive comments you've received to this post (and others) and all I can say is try to focus on those of us who love you and your blog.

    You're beautiful inside and out.

    Sending you big virtual hugs!!

    Becky xx

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  31. Im actually in shock!! You are so gorgeous, you are not overweight at ALL and just generally look amazing! Im not going to say ignore it, cos its impossible to not get hurt by it. Just read all the comments above though and you'll see how big your fan base is, and how amazing we all think you are! I cant believe people could be such dicks!!! Internet anonymity just allows people to be horrible, but more should be done about it - we all need to stick together and beat it.

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  32. Well, i think i never posted a comment on your blog, but i absolutely love your posts and everything about your blog, and i follow it almost religiously... I honestly do not understand why people treated you like that, and i'm glad i found your blog, since half the blogs i find are skinny ass girls who are more bones than personality...I know it is hard, but we have to accept that the world is full of horrible people who:
    1-are probably jealous
    2-have nothing better to do with their lifes.
    I wish nothing but the best for you, and believe your followers when we say you are beautiful! regards*

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  33. i'm really sorry you've had to deal with such cruelty, as, you're right, you haven't done anything to warrant it. as much as i feel sorry for you, i think that i probably feel more sorry for the people who have left you those comments- they clearly have some sort of personal issues causing them to be needlessly malevolent, and you don't. there's something to be said for that. even if you were as ugly and disgusting as they make you out to be (and you are NOT; you are so lovely!), the fact that you're not an asshole makes you infinitely better than they'll ever be. i hope that you feel better soon!

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  34. good for you! i know how annoying it can be when people just tell you to 'ignore it' because sometimes things are just too horrible to ignore, and there's no point saying 'it doesn't affect me' because it affects anyone when they're insulted because of who they are. i've experienced stuff like this on formspring and even though i pretend to brush it off with a joke, it still hurts.
    stay fierce :) xxx

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  35. I love you for writing this post and always being honest, thoughtful, and true to yourself. You are BEAUTIFUL; you have amazing style and a great body. Honestly. Weight is totally irrelevant, and comments like these are just cruel comments from ignorant idiots. Never let something as thoughtless as hate get to you. You are truly beautiful! <3

    <3 Sam

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  36. You're so brave for writing about this. I once blogged about something personal and it made some people show they're true colours but it was worth it in the end.
    you're blog inspires me to think, hey i might give that item of clothing a try. the fact that half/most of the haters are annonmous proves that they might send you a lot of hate but what have they got to show for their lives. you're brave enough to post stylish images of yourself up on the web but they cant be brave enough to be honest about who they are when they attack you. LOSERS
    just keep blogging and doing what you're doing because your followers love your blog.

    thegeekinthestripeytop.blogspot.com

    alex xx

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  37. This makes me so angry! I can't believe people can be this vile! I bet these are the ball-less twats wouldn't dare spew this venom to someone's face. They're slimy pieces of shit and I wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire.

    I've always seen tumblr as some kind of immature playground for immature school kids and these comments confirm it.

    Chin up V, you're better than them. Carry on with what you're doing because you do it WELL. At least you're going far in life unlike those silly kids. xx

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  38. this is so horrible! you are gorgeous & I think you always look fab in your outfit posts! I don't understand how people get off on being nasty to people..they must be very jealous & bitter. love your blog!! x

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  39. I know I'm just going to be saying the same things as everyone else, but for one - well done you for posting this, I completely agree that laughing things off or whatever won't always stop things getting you down. You should be really proud of yourself for posting this and showing possibly a vulnerable side, which is not easy to do.
    And for two, you are beautiful, like SERIOUSLY beautiful, and you have an amazing blog and you are one of the very first blogs which I followed and got my inspiration from to start my own. I read your blog everyday and 'look up to it' if you will, I'm still too scared to take photos outside of my back garden for god's sake. The thing I notice about you is not your weight at all, but the things you're wearing and what you have to say. I know saying this might not help things at all, but you're a beautiful person on the INSIDE (and the out!) which is something people can NEVER take away from you, which I think is the main thing. Let's see where they get in life, with personalities like that.

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  40. I'm a new reader to your blog and I think you're gorgeous!
    I can't even understand the comments in that image & i'm shocked that they're real comments.

    The internet can be a breeding ground for hate and gives cowards and anonymous persona to hide behind.
    But the internet can also be a place to inspire and from what I can see in this post and the comments there are a lot of people that YOU inspire & that's worth so much more than anything those idiots can ever say.

    Chin up, I'm glad i've discovered your blog and your great sense of style, consider me a new fan!

    Cat x

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  41. The tone of the messages sound like it is just one person, don't you think? It could possibly be someone you know in the real world as well.

    Horrible person/people. You do know that this sort of hate is illegal and harassment. There is no such thing as 'anonymous' on the internet and they could be tracked quite easily if you reported it to the police.

    You are a beautiful girl and I mean that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

    I hate bullies, Karma is a bitch xx

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  42. I wrote you a big comment then got an error message when I went to submit it. Anyways, I just wanted to say you are one of the most beautiful, heart warming and genuine people I have met via blogging. You don't deserve any of the abuse you've been given, its absolutely ridiculous! The people/person who takes the time to sit and write that shit clearly has no life. What a loser. They will be jealous that you are so talented and have a lot going for you. AND THEY DONT! Fucking idiots. Love you xx

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  43. Ive never written a comment, but now i have to! I love what you're showing here and you must be strong!
    Stay with us and dont leave!
    Be yourself as usual and dont bother this useless ppl who leaves nasty comments.

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  44. They are horrible horrible comments. It's easy to hide behind a mask. It's disgusting that there are people in this society who think that they can comment on someones weight/clothes/hairstyle that they should.

    Please please don't let them get you done. I'm a size 14/16, weighing just a little under 13 stone. I go to the gym + swimming 2/3 times a week, eat pretty healthy with the odd "naughty" treat here and there. I look bigger than all my friends in pictures and when I see one, I go "oh no! Look at my stomach/waist/arms/face!" Whatever I think, is the most horrible thing I can see. I may go to the gym because I know it has a good affect because I just want to tone up I guess? but if someone came to me tomorrow and said "I can help you lose weight by tomorrow?" Would I? No, I wouldn't. I've got the personality that helps carry my looks through- (might sound big headed but it's not meant to be!) I'm sweet, kind, funny, up for a laugh, smart.

    I have THE personality and that's what you have too. You're the full package. My friends want my legs because they're nice and long as I want their hair or skin. I want your sweet nature, it's not vicious in anyway. You're passionate about blogging. You're hard working. Don't let someone's opinion ruin what you do. If they do, send them my way and I'll show them a picture of my stomach and show them "real fat"

    YOU.ARE.BEAUTIFUL.

    xxxxxxxxxxx

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  45. It take alot to reply to the hate comments, but it truly takes courage to address them with emotion. You should be so proud of yourself for finally telling them how it is!

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  46. Good on you for posting this! I am very sorry you have to deal with idiots like that. Carry on and let them be... let Karma lead the way!

    You look great and your outfits are nice. I am in the fashion business and let me tell you one thing - I am tired of dressing bags of bones!

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  47. It makes me feel sad that there are people out there making you feel this way. But you address the situation elegantly and eloquently. They are just jealous and spiteful people. Keep your head up and know that the blogging community is behind you.

    Faye

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  48. I'm so proud that you had the balls to post this and to address the issue, it makes me so mad and angry when I see the hate you get for no apparent reason. You've handled it extremely well and with dignity. It's easy to say you're going to ignore it and not let it get to you but it sort of always does, so I understand you wanting to take a break from the personal side of blogging. I hope you come back with renewed vigor and the confidence that we love about you. Don't let the bastards get you down
    xxx
    Nina

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  49. These people are assholes and need to get a life of their own. Honestly, if I was you I would turn the anon comments off and not give these assholes a chance to hurt you.

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  50. Those comments acutally make me feel sick. I don't know how those people can live with themselves.

    I don't understand why people invest so much time and effort being negative like that - what could they possibly hope to achieve??

    You are brilliant and beautiful - don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

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  51. You're gorgeous and it really saddens me to think people who write such rubbish exist.

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  52. It takes a lot of courage to write a post like this, brilliant job!
    I used to get 'weight hate' as I call it on twitter/formspring and even on my actual blog, and I guess that's hard to ignore.
    Those haters are just internet trolls and literally have nothing to do all day but write hateful comments to make them feel better about their lives.
    You are really beautiful and I hope you feel better soon! 'fucktheh8terz'!! haha :)
    Joelle
    xoxo

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  53. It's horrifying that this is happening to you Victoria. I absolutely love your ebay finds, I always check them out when they pop in my twitter feed! For every vile comment there are hundreds of girls who think you're fab and love what you do! xxx

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  54. It is really brave to write about this and kudos to you for doing so! It is really appalling that people use the whole 'anonymous' facade to bully others when, like in your case, it is really uncalled for. Tsk.

    Just so you know I really enjoy reading your blog. I find it really inspiring and informative. You look great in your outfit posts! Keep it up and I look forward to more great posts ^___^

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  55. I'm quite new to the blogging world and didn't really realise the extent to which these low-lives go. They really are scum of the earth. Just remember that for every 1 idiot there is a hundred people who think you are beautiful. I hope you keep with the outfit posts
    :)
    xxx

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  56. i cant believe some people could be so nasty, wtf?! i love your blog js <3

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  57. I always thought you are beautiful and I'm quite jealous of your pretty face! People shouldn't judge each other this harshly, it's sad that people waste their time on posting sick comments like these.

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  58. I am genuinely mortified you are faced with such despicable spitefulness! I applaud you for standing up for yourself, sometimes you can't just ignore it and it deserves to be addressed! I find your outfit posts gorgeous and inspirational, your MOTD beautiful and your designer inspired posts bloody brilliant (my bank balance thanks you)...at least know for every sad human being out there with nothing better to do then spit venom there's about 100 girls who think you are amazing
    xxx

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  59. The only thing negative about your blog is that you make me spend all my money on ebay & if that makes you a bad person then I HATE YOU VIPXO ;), in all seriousness though fuck the pathetic people that actually think 'you have corned beef legs' is a valid insult, i'm cringing majorly for them. You're gorgeous lovely xxx

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  60. I just want to say your blog is one of my favourites and you just seem lovely! Trolls = knobs

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  61. Posting this on your blog will help loads of other girls and boys who get hate abuse because of what they look like. No one should judge someone by how they look it's immature. :) x

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  62. Don't let them get you down, I think your fabulous!

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  63. To be honest I never quite understand (from my perspective) how girls can just ignore it when they receive huge amounts of hate. I just know it would affect me after the first time and I'd run away! Perhaps you just need a break and you'll come back totally refreshed.

    This whole curvy,skinny,chubby I think we all know what category we fit into, there are not many bloggers that are literally deluded. So I don't think it's necessary for all the 'I love how you're curvy' or 'I'm so jealous you're so skinny'. I think when we look in the mirror and choose our clothes...we know. So just concentrate on the pretty outfits and the nice clothes people!

    Plus comments that generally start "Not meaning to cause offence but..." Usually are! So just don't say it in the first place...

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  64. Dear Victoria, I feel bad for you, yet I envy you because these sour losers are clearly super jealous of you!!

    I always respected you alot
    about the way you look, the great
    styling you have and the tips you
    are giving!

    I don't understand people comment these things...

    I hope you don't feel discouraged
    because of this, I hope you continue doing what you love because this is your power!

    -bigvirtualhug- xx

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  65. I read because I love your style and you look real. Haters are a part of blogging unfortunately. I like to think that what they think they are doing anonymously actually shows up on their faces, making them a little uglier which each comment they write!

    Keep up the awesome blogging! Xxx

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  66. I can't believe people can be so pathetic and nasty. Take absolutely no notice of them. You are gorgeous and i absolutely love reading your blog. You have given me so many ideas for outfits / styles to try out. I can only imagine that the people leaving these comments are jealous. Take care xx

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  67. I know that it is hard to ignore them but honestly that is all you can do. You've got such a great sense of style that all the haters are just jealous. They want the attention from hurting your feelings but you are so much better than them.

    Cyberbulling is horrible and I wish it could just end. You are such an awesome person! Don't let the haters get to you!

    -Madeline Grace
    Just Let the Sparrows Fly

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  68. I think you're an amazing blogger, have a great style, and you're so pretty. If I ever receive hate, which I probably will as they look like they target anyone, I hope to receive it with as much dignity and control that you do.

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  69. Wow Victoria! I am so so sorry you've had to deal with this! Ignorant people hiding behind computer screens have taken lives before, I wish people could see this. I admire you so much for keeping your head up, I could not deal with the criticism you recieve. I don't understand it for a second, you have a beautiful figure and dress with poise, elegance and flair. I can only assume it's pure and simple jelousy which is a disgusting trait in anyone let alone those who are so cowardly they hide as 'anoms'. As someone who's struggled with an eating disorder from the age of thirteen the vile insults above make my blood run cold, people who are affected by those words end up destroying their lives and themselves. Those words can kill people. It boggles me that people can be so cruel.

    I hope every message on here reaffirms how untrue these statements are to you and how you are a beautiful and brilliant blogger who deserves so much more!

    Keep your head up

    Sarah
    xx

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  70. Take absolutely no notice of this hate. I know it's hard but the best thing to do is totally ignore them and don't give them the satisfaction :) please please don't stop what you do, it would be such a shame. In fact, I'm dying to see you wear your Primark midi dress! So get it up ;)

    xxxx

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  71. People can be so horrible! I absolutely love your blog especially your outfit posts, you are such an inspiration to me! Much love! x

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  72. I can't believe that people can just be so unbelievably horrible! So glad you wrote this and stuck up for yourself! You are absolutely gorgeous just the way you are Victoria :) XXX

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  73. So far you have 71 lovely comments, says it all x

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  74. i can't believe there are such idiots!!

    well done to you victoria for writing this post. I'm sure it is very difficult, but I hope you feel slightly better that you have vented it out.

    It will definitely help lots of other readers who are going through similar situations, as at times one might feel that they're the only ones that receive the hate mail.

    with regards to loosing followers - i seriously doubt it. but if you do - you would just realise that the followers that stopped following are not really worth having. its just the same thing with realising who are your true friends during a difficult time.

    i know its easy to say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...but i hope you will realise it very soon.

    in the meantime, hope you get loads of support from the rest of your lovely followers as i'm sure you have some real genuine ones.

    Sry for the loooong reply....but couldn't not write it.

    Massive hugs
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  75. I'm shocked and upset about what people have been saying to you, it's totally unacceptable.
    Your blog is great and you are stunning so don't let them get you down or stop you doing what you love. I hope the amount of comments on this post shows the haters where to go...x

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  76. These are disgusting comments, I don't know how people have the nerve to post it to people. I bet they wouldn't have the balls to say it to your face, but instead they hide behind their screens. They have no opinion what so ever, they posted anonymously so it shows their scared. They're a waste of space.

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  77. I think you and your blog are lovely. I can't believe what I have just read...makes me feel so angry! Don't change a thing about you or your blog, the amount of positive comments you have received shows that we all enjoy reading your posts xxxx

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  78. The people posting those comments have nothing better to do with their sad pathetic lives.
    You're beautiful, you have amazing style, and what are they? most likely a bunch of scratty 15 year olds sat behind a computer screen posting as 'annonymous', going no where in life.
    keep your beautiful head up and ignore that shit!
    :) xxx


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  79. It really is so brave of you to have posted about this. Some people are just nasty and it baffles me as to what they get from acting and bahaving like this?! You have a fantastic blog so don't let people like this stop you from doing what you love! x

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  80. Good for you Victoria for writing this! I know exactly how you feel, and to receive hate is never a nice thing, no matter how much you try to ignore it. Take a break, keep your head held high and I'm sure you'll be back with some kick ass outfit posts (I hope so cause yours are some of my FAVES). Love you lots and lots you gorgeous girl :) xxxxxx

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  81. I can't believe that people can be so horrible! I really think that it's just jelousy. Honestly. I experienced it myself. I was a size 14 back then(18 at the moment) and got horrible comments underneath my WEDDING PICTURES! Shocking and not nice at all. I was in tears!
    I think that anybody who leaves a nasty comment is a looser that envies your beauty! Your blog is amazing and since I found it YOU keep inspiring me with every outfit or makeup post and as a person!
    YOU REALLY ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! I am not saying this just to be nice. It is 100% true. You are an inspiration to all real size girls and a proof that you don't need to be a size 0 to look gorgeous! Don't ever think about giving up blogging because of the rude comments. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL AND YOU DON'T NEED TO CHANGE ANYTHING!
    love xxxx Sandra

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  82. This makes me so angry! How can people be so rude just because they have access to the Internet! URGH!
    I think your blog is amazing and I love every single post. I think you're an ispiration for keeping your head high and I hope that all of these comments make you keep it up :)

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  83. Honey you are a beautiful woman ...Only people who are insecure with themselves will comment saying nasty things. They're just jealous that you have the confidence to blog and take pictures flaunting your BEAUTIFUL body

    ...stay positive xxx

    Charlee Dee
    british-belle.blogspot.com

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  84. Keyboard warriors only send you comments to get your attention. I know it probably doesn't feel like it right now, but they obviously look at your blog and stuff because they rate you... why else would they take the time to leave you comments like that?

    You're not fat. You're not ugly. You're not deserving of those comments.

    You're beautiful. You're talented. You're better than they are.

    Please don't let these people stop you from posting outfit pictures and video's. I know exactly what it's like to get comments like this. One day you'll get to a point where you literally don't care anymore. They'll make you laugh. I promise x x x x

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  85. I won't repeat what everyone else has said, but suffice to say, I agree with all of the above lovely comments. It sickens and disgusts me that you've been driven to feel this way, these nasty 'anons' can just crawl back to the holes they came from. Kill the hate with love, and you've got it here in abundance.

    You're FIT hon, at least you've got the balls to be who you are :) Much love and respect for this post xxxxxxx

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  86. Body shaming is one of the worst parts of "normalised" society and you are a part of a huge online movement that fights it - you're not alone Victoria! LOTS of us get hate for our body sizes, thin or fat or even just in between. Just remember that the people who spout this crap don't have the INTELLIGENCE or BRAIN POWER to think outside the box or question why men and women like us are force-fed propaganda (yes it is propaganda) by magazines, films and TV about being a certain size to be "beautiful", and that WE are the clever people who in the end will succeed in life and be far happier than they will be because we are intelligent enough and we love ourselves. All my love xo

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  87. You, are gorgeous. Plain and Simple really:)

    You literally ooze style! Good on you for posting this, it doesn't mean the haters have 'won', it means you're human.

    Chin up, enjoy you're break, but don't stay away too long!

    There is waaayyy more love for you than hate :)

    xxxxx

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  88. I cannot believe this!! You have a beautiful curvy figure and that´s why I like your blog.
    Don´t listen to those nasty comments!
    Lots of love from Spain xx

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  89. Biggest respect ever for having the balls to say this. It can't be easy but you have so many people that love your blog and respect you, just like me :)xxx

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  90. i'm so glad you have addressed this issue! i saw one of your tweets last week replying to a hateful comment, and thats the first time i realised what was going on... i was absolutely disgusted that anybody, let alone, more than one person would even send such horrible comments... such an inspirational post... keep your head high lovely. xxx

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  91. I follow you on here and tumblr and you seem like such a lovely person, always going out your way to find things for people and help them out.
    You definitely don't deserve any of the hate.
    You look lovely in outfit photos and I hope you won't stop posting them.
    This post is so honest and will hopefully make the 'haters' think twice about their behaviour.
    -x-

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  92. I have only recently been introduced to your blog by the lovely Laura's recommendation and I was actually so impressed by you and your blog. Victoria I assure you that it's purely down to jealousy and their lack of love for themselves that they churn out his shit!!! They hate that you are talented and confident so they are trying to take that away.

    You will always have the support from the majority of us who love you and what you do. x x

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  93. I dont have much to say about this; other than I'm so glad to see you not put up with the rubbish they give you, and that you are beautiful.

    xxx

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  94. I don't blame you for doing this post, these comments are absolutely disgusting. These haters should not feel they have won but should be reading this and hanging their head in shame. I cannot stand people who bully and make nasty comments about weight. I just can't understand what makes people take the time to make nasty comments about someone they have never met. I know they're hard to ignore but please don't you be the one to hang your head in shame, you are beautiful inside and out so hold your head high and flip the birdy at those haters with a smile on your face! :) xxx

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  95. Jesus Christ this is so bad! as you say, you can say ignore them or whatever but fact is stuff like this affects people, how could it not?! there literally just idiot scum of the earth! your doing what you love doing and ino its easy enough to say just carry on and let it go over your head, but DO NOT stop doing it!
    hope you feel happy again soon and carry on blogging!
    as for them oxygen thieving bullies, they'll get whats coming to them one day

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  96. I started follow your blog because I think that you are beautiful girl. I love your style. Haters are monsters, I can bet they are just jealous that you are not ashamed of your curves. "F*ck the haters, you are the best". x

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  97. don't listen to the hate, i can't believe people send things like that- and anon too! i love your blog so much and it makes my day when you do a new post and your ebay finds are so helpful! xxx

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  98. I'm so happy you decided to address this issue. It makes me sick to my stomach when I see comments like that. I hope you'll gain your confidence back and start posting your outfits again, though. I'm a plus size girl, and seeing your outfit photos has actually encouraged me to not be afraid of what other people think of me and finally start wearing things I actually like (bye, bye hoodies)! :)

    http://sandra-thepuzzleofmylife.blogspot.com

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  99. Honestly can't believe how rude these people are, it's disgusting!
    You're a lovely girl and I follow you because you're just a normal girl. I'm a 16/18 and it's great to see 'curvier' girls looking amazing!
    I know it's hard but please remember these anons are idiots!!!!!
    xxxxxx

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  100. I am shocked! You do not deserve that abuse. I guess you could say I'm relatively new to blogging and can't believe people have the audacity to be so rude. It's disgusting behaviour. I really hope you continue blogging! <3 xx

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  101. It's all about hiding behind a screen for some people. I think it's disgusting how much hate you get, I've noticed it on tumblr and you obviously don't even post every single hate comment.
    I think doing this hasn't allowed the haters to win, it's just brought attention to a vile aspect of the Internet and if anything had brought the lovers out in force!
    I absolutely love your blog and I hope that you can somehow move past this and realise that they are just bored cowards who have chosen you as a target.

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  102. It saddens me how some people can be so spiteful and evil to nice, innocent people.
    I'm just about to start doing outfit posts on my blog and seeing this has kinda put me on edge because I'm not exactly skinny so I really hope I don't have haters on my blog :/

    http://that-is-my-style.blogspot.com

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  103. what a bunch of lowlifes - I guess they have nothing better to do with their time but just hate. Please keep doing what you do and keep your chin up, I love your blog and would hate to see it change because of some pond scum haters

    http://blogoftheprettythings.blogspot.com/

    xxxx

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  104. You are one of the best bloggers around and a real woman! Be proud of your body, you are beautiful! Carry on being you Victoria and let them bitchy wagons wallow in their ugly comments. No good can come to people with such hate in their hearts! I will continue to look foward to all your posts but especially your outfit posts! Hang in there you will get your groove back! xxx

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  105. Good for you for writing this. I can't believe that some people think it's okay to say these types of things, it's sickening. But sadly the internet just provides a huge, free platform for people to pour all their frustrations, hatred and bitterness onto, because once they click 'send' they won't have to deal with it anymore, and they're too heartless and frankly, stupid to consider the real person on the other side of the screen. I just can't believe people think this is okay. Take heart in the fact that the anons posting comments like these are just embittered, soulless and most probably friendless. If the only way someone can get their kicks is through posting horrible comments on a blog then you can be sure they're not living particularly thrilling and fulfilling lives.

    Also, I'm 100% confident that the vast majority of you 3000+ followers, myself included, think you are absolutely lovely, gorgeous and talented! xxxx

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  106. It's only a matter of time before we all get hater comments - it is because you have such a successful blog that you get them. It's just like the comments you see all over twitter and Facebook about famous people - Angelina Jolie and her right leg for example! I hope you don't let it put you off your outfit posts because your styling is an inspiration for us normal-sized girls - I've never commented before but I love your blog. It's a breath of fresh air. I think it's a good move to remove anon comments, however. Completely unnecessary to have anon comments.

    My ex boyfriend's dad was a very famous racer in his day and was disliked by the press because he said what he thought (which wasn't always very nice!). He was a multi-millionaire and loved fame and everything that came with it. He used to say that it doesn't matter what people are saying about you, if they're talking about you you've made it! So what I'm trying to say is that those comments are all part of your success, unfortunately, so dust yourself down and carry on with the good work. There are thousands of people who support you so don't let them, or yourself, down by giving in to mindless criticism.

    Nicki xxx

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  107. I respect you so much for actually posting this and putting it out there. haters need to see the affect they have on people. its all well and good for them behind a screen where noone can see them. ugh it makes me sick how cowardly they can be!! im sure they would never say anything like that to someone they dont know in the street, and if they did they'd end up with a kick in the head for it.
    you are a beautiful person victoria xo

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  108. I'm so proud of you for writing this.

    The sad thing is, the people that are sending you this hate are probably just as insecure and they need to think about the certain type of person that they wish to be.

    Take a break but don't stop doing what you do. You're gorgeous and no size on a tag is going to determine that.

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  109. I've been reading your blog for some time now -long time reader, first time commenting!- and in light of this post I felt I needed to chip in a comment of support along with the many, many others. You are a genuinely interesting and beautiful person and a super awesome human bean! You have a true flair for fashion and style and if a small number of people fail to see it because of their narrow-mindedness, more is the shame for them. I hope you can take from this that you have a far larger support network (of good, decent people) than the number of people that waste their time sending spiteful messages.

    Chin up lovely lady ;) x

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  110. Good on you for addressing this issue! I can't understand the type of person who would set out to hurt someone this way. It just shows they are complete cowards hiding behind a computer screen and "anonymous" name, I don't think some of them realise it is actually bullying and it needs to stop and there will be some of them who know exactly what they're doing and those people are very sad individuals!

    The best thing to do is keep your head held high, keep doing what you're doing and focus on the positive comments as hard as that might seem just now. The fact that you have over 100 comments on this post alone says it all!

    I always hear about bloggers saying they don't want to address the hate but these "haters" shouldn't be put to the side, you've shown their true colours and revealed how pathetic they are and that you're not going to let it get to you, they shouldn't be able to write something and get away with it that easily.

    I hope you're okay and you can get back to regular blogging asap! xx

    Sami - www.beautyaesthetic.co.uk

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  111. Reading this post has made me so sad :( I can't believe people can be so cruel. Obviously insecurity and jealousy come into it, but these people have a serious psychological problem.

    Just know there are so many people who admire you and who you inspire every day!You are a beautiful,happy and stylish person; good for you for standing up to these creatures!

    Stay strong!

    Xx

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  112. I cannot believe some of the comment I read on blogs, i would never even dream of writing the nasty comments that some people write. I don't understand why people need to put others down and insult them. I think it is all too easy these days for people to sit at their computer and hide themselves and they use this to insult others - I don't think they would dream of saying it to your face, cowards.

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  113. Long time lurker coming out to show my support. Our society has become one of negativity and hate. It's so sad and I have personally tried to change the way I think and act around others because picking others apart is a sad, sad way of living. I love your blog and I hope the support of you fans can empower you to continue what you do!!

    xoxo

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  114. be strong girl! me and your followers will always be with you no matter what. If you think you like the pictures, who cares about the haters. As long as you're happy, post it. That's all that matters. :)

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  115. It's so sad. I really dont understand why people are so hateful! I'm sorry that you receive these horrible comments daily. More people should think before they speak, evrn if it is via the internet! "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!!"! And to post anonymously, please at least grow a set if you're gonna "hate" on someone!!! Ok rant over!!! You're wicked beautiful, don't ever let some loser make you think for a split second that you're not!!! <3 :)

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  116. Some people are just awful and as this comment board shows, for every one hater you have 100+ people who love and support you :)

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  117. I send you the best biggest warmest hug imaginable from Israel. I LOVE your blog. You have inspired me to take some chances with my clothing (being very conservative) I impatiently wait for your 'inspired by' blogs and then hunt down the items. I love your outfit of the day blogs, I always think how stylish you are in every one of them. This post made me very sad this morning. I can't imagine the shock you feel reading such things from people. I read it in disbelief! Just know that you have your true followers supporting you always! xoxox

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  118. Oh my gosh I am actually in so much shock here. How awful are these people? You have such a great blog and clearly so many people think so due to the amount of genuine readers you have. I'm really sorry that you have had to feel this way due to this minority of brain lacking individuals. Keep on doing what you love as we all love it too.

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  119. I for one am absolutely disgusted that human beings think its okay to say things like that to someone. Who made them god. Really hope you continue to rise above them. They do not deserve your tears, truth is; theyre probably so insecure within themselves they do it to make themselves feel better.

    Stay head strong lovey x x

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  120. I' can't believe some of the malicious things some people write, they're blatantly just insecure about their on little pathetic lives. It's so unnecessary and cruel though and you're so brave for sticking up to yourself and writing this post!

    You really are beautiful and so many people admire you and what you bring to this blog.. I WISH I could dress the way you do and be able to pull it off, you have some serious style!

    But keep your chin up gorgeous and keep doing what you're doing :)
    x

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  121. wow. i'm actually shocked because i never really go on formspring or tumblr so I literally had no idea!
    I know how hard it is to ignore them because they truly are hurtful are mean, which you don't deserve.
    I think you got to remember that so many people admire you simply for who you are, your style and the help you give to others.
    no way do you (or anyone for that matter) deserve such hate for what you do.
    There will always be people who love/hate you and so many celebrities and role models go through that aswell.
    You just have to stay strong, look above them and show them that you're proud of how you look (because you should be!) and they actually have nothing better to do then go through your blog then write hatred (jealousy..)
    i really hope you realise that many people admire you just for who you are, and that you are an amazing role model for others including myself!
    you go girl! <3

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  122. Good for you !!! I think it's diabolical that in this day and age people are bullied for what they look like - you stand your ground and don't change for anyone - your perfect just the way you are and your blog is absolutely amazing xx these people are just bloody idiots !!! This hate is unnecessary and cruel and some people think that just cos they don't put their real name to it they can talk shit about people !!! Well they will get theirs - karma is after all a complete bitch xxx keep blogging and don't let these losers get to you xxx

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  123. This is such a sad thing to read, as you are such an amazing person. I follow both your blog and on twitter and you do not deserve any of thier vile comments one little bit! You are an amazing blogger, with what seems to be a fantastic personality and sense of fashion, you know what you're talking about. You spend hours almost everyday posting tweets about things you have found for others, it's just amazing that you do so much for others and these vile people can say such hurtful comments. I'm glad that you posted this as it just shows we are all human and have feelings. You are an amazing blogger and I always look forward to reading your posts! You just keep being you Victoria :) the haters are just clearly jealous.. Xx

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  124. I just wanted to add myself to the list of people leaving you messages of support and encouragement! I to know what it's like to have your confidence zapped and knowing that whilst you shouldn't let someone's comments affect you in that way, it is only human!

    I hope that in time you'll be able to look at these comments and see there's more love for what you do than hate! You really are an inspiration :)

    xx

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  125. I can't believe people put comments like this; I honestly didn't think girls did things like this :S

    I get the impression they are quite young so hopefully they grow up and regret being so nasty to another person.

    You've got such a successful blog (that I'm sure they haven't...), and you're one of the people that influenced me to start mine, so be proud of that !!!

    Girls should stick together! <3

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  126. This has just made them look even more pathetic! I'm glad you made this post as it has highlighted how low people will go, especially as they post it as "anonymous" as they know it is bad! It's so unneeded! Keep on blogging xx

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  127. This has just made them look even more pathetic! I'm glad you made this post as it has highlighted how low people will go, especially as they post it as "anonymous" as they know it is bad! It's so unneeded! Keep on blogging xx

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  128. I'm one of those girls in your shoes right now...all my life I have suffered from these kind of abuse that u're talking about...but finally I had the chance to see the lovely people around me , that love me , understands me and protects me...I also have a doll face and a curvy body...and I'm proud because if I have ever been skinny....the person that I am today wouldn't exist!!! I'm sure you have love, friends and you have us for sure being there and supporting all your efforts here. To conclude I'm not gonna tell you not to be bothered with those rude comments but remember.....There are tones of people waiting for you to fail and if there is something to proove, proove it for yourself...you need someone to hate you so you can become perfect day by day.... xoxo and cheer up

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  129. This is a very brave post :) I was shocked to see the examples of the hate comments you ave received, they are truly sickening. Stick with doing what you love, whether that is posting on the blog or not, just do it for yourself. And rightly so, a big middle finger up to all the haters.

    xxx

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  130. anyone who says you're overweight is horrible and lying completely. you have an amazing figure and you are absolutely beautiful, i honestly do look up to you. you're such a nice person, and everyone can tell how much effort you put into your blog and for people to put you down is horrible, however they're wrong. and you should know you are completely stunning, i would love to be as pretty as you. dont let them get you down. xxxx

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  131. please don't stop doing outfit photos because of the haters, I really enjoy your outfit photos, your style is different from a fair few other bloggers I follow and I like that. Everyone has the right to have style no matter what size they are.

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  132. Holy crap, I can't believe people like that exist. What dickheads. I don't understand why anybody would think that writing nasty comments to a complete stranger (or anybody, for that matter) is a worthwhile thing to do. I hope that they read your blog post and feel a little bit shit about themselves.

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  133. i cannot put into words how shocked and disgusted i am at reading those comments! i knew (through twitter etc) that you got a lot of hate, but i had NO idea what the extent of it was!

    i know it isn't sympathy you're looking for, but i think i speak for all of your readers when i say that i hope you can be strong enough to move past this, people are jealous & people are unhappy in their own skin & that is the only reason they are victimising you. it can be difficult when people target your insecurities (i struggle with this all the time) but just remember life is too short to let the insignificant people get you down! remember how many people enjoy your blog & love yours posts!

    hope to see you back soon (with outfit posts! cause they're my fave, haha) xxx

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  134. Good on you for calling these pathetic haters out! They really are unsecure and hateful people who are trying to make you feel worse than them. You have every right to be upset by this but you have so many supporters in your readers. I don't know how you deal with it but I respect you and think you are so strong. Thank you for sharing this, I absolutely adore your blog and love how much it's grown. X x

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  135. Jesus, it's a sad world we live in when being a size 14 attracts those kinds of comment.

    I can imagine reading things like that must hit you like a sucker-punch every time, and it's one thing to logically know you should ignore and rise above them, but another thing to be actually able to do that. As you say, you're only human.

    I'm so grateful that there are beautiful, savvy, normal-sized people like you making your presence felt in the beauty and fashion community. To my mind it's just plain wrong that we are all conditioned by magazines, films and the media to think that beauty = size 8, and I am constantly amazed that in this day and age the fashion industry isn't doing more to showcase the beauty of women of all sizes, instead of this obsession with skinny girls.

    It's disgusting to me that some commenters buy into this size zero culture. I just plain don't understand it.

    ::shakes head in despair::

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  136. The comments you have received are heartbreaking to see, no one can read them and not feel upset by how spiteful they are. This is coming from a reader that gets excited when you have a new post :) You are beautiful and do not deserve the ridiculous comments :(

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  137. You are a good person and I love reading your blog!!! Don't let anyone put you down because you don't deserve it!!!!xxx

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  138. Just look how many lovely comments you have here! I love your blog and really look forward to your posts, you're beautiful inside and out. Keep smiling x

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  139. When I read this I wanted to cry! (I'm pregnant so I'm an emotional wreck) I can't believe you get so much hate when all your doing is sharing your love of fashion and helping other people find what they've been searching for.
    I've never commented before, to be honest I only found this blog like 2 weeks ago but I love it and have gone back and read pretty much all your posts!!
    I think you have more people that actually like you than send you horrible comments! xxx

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  140. Those comments are disgusting. I can understand how you would want to not carry on blogging with comments like that as they are just venomous as you say. But at the same time you have almost 4000 followers so please take comfort in the fact that more people support you than hate on you. And let's face it, they are obviously very bored with their own lives and themselves and very jealous of your success- why else would they even bother?

    I just thought I would leave a little comment and sow my support for you anyway as someone who reads your blog regularly. I hope you find the strength and courage to carry on what you obviously love doing. x

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  141. The comments at the top are disgusting. It's such a shame people feel the need to be so pathetic and vile about a person, I really can't fathom it. You seem a really lovely girl who enjoys what she does and takes a lot of personal time to find things for other people. If people have a problem with that they have serious personal issues they should probably address. As for your weight, well, when has being a normal weight been a bad thing? Good on you for writing this and letting 'anon's' know exactly how pathetic they really are. As you can probably tell from all the comments this post has you have a hell of a lot more people who enjoy reading your blog than leaving snide hate. I'm rambling now but don't let them get you down :) lovelove xxx

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  142. I love that you finally came up with that post. It doesn't mean that those haters have won. It's okay and every reader understands what you feel like. Just think of all the lovely and supporting comments you receive daily :) Lilly x

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  143. What complete and utter twats those people are! It makes me so angry that genuine people like yourselves are receiving all this hate.

    Honestly, I'm not surprised you are upset!! I would be too but I think you have handled it in a bloody calm way.

    I hope you get your confidence to include outfit posts/more personal posts again soon because i love reading them. x

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  144. Like a girl said further down the comment form... 72 comments... now its 143... such a shame some people are so horrid and all you can do is get back to what your doing when your ready... We all love your blog and it's such a shame that some people have nothing better to do than criticise and bully other people because maybe they are different... deep down they are just insecure! I think your an inspiration to all those girls who do have weight problems but I really don't see why people cannot see that your happy the way you are and leave it at... some people really dont have anything better to do! Much Love Vic xx

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  145. this was a really bold thing to post, i hope you feel better soon.. i'm sure everyone's said this already but it really is just narrow minded, stupid scrubbers who have nothing better to do with their time than post a thoughtless comment over the internet. I really admire you for your confidence to still post even after receiving these spiteful comments, other people should be able to see how great of a blogger and real-life person you are. You don't deserve the crap x

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  146. Those comments are absolutely disgusting I think you are gorgeous <3 xx

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  147. I admire you so much for doing this! I really dont know how people can steep so low and send messages like that. What if you done something drastic or hurt yourself? Whats 1 minute of bullying really? How does it benefit them? Just be strong and remember your beautiful and your weight does not define who you are. xx

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  148. I honestly can't believe what I've seen. It pisses
    Me off how haters can sit behind their computer screens and get off by causing upset and hurt to others. Would they dare come up and say it in the street?? No cause they'd be scared shitless. I know it's easier said than done, but dont let the minority stop you from blogging. Big hugs xxx

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  149. You have so much courage to post this. It's disgusting cyber bullying that noone should have to experience. I hope you get through this and keep reminding yourself that 99.9% of your followers adore your blog and you as a blogger..the haters are jealous of what you have accomplished :)xoxo

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  150. I sent you an email a couple of months ago regarding how much I loved your blog, and how much of an inspiration to me you are. With a blogger sphere full of skinny, 'waif like' models, it really is refreshing to see someone embrace their body and show us readers what a real figure looks like. Yes, I do look at skinnier bloggers but there's no way I'd try and replicate a look they wear, because I know it would look VERY different on me (I'm a size 12 - 14).
    I wouldn't refer to you as a 'curvy' blogger, simply because I think you are just a normal blogger. You have a real figure, and represent outfits/styles that we can all wear. I don't follow you because your size is different, but because you have an amazing style, a really witty way of putting things and seem very genuine and helpful! Bloggers of all shapes and sizes should be celebrated because what I think people forget is that is it OUR own personal blog, where we share our own thoughts and ideas. I've had some negative comments on my blog about being too 'biased' when writing a post and that I'm not a skinny blogger. The real shame with the anonymous tag is that people think they are invincible behind a computer screen & so feel the need to write derogatory comments.
    Anyway, I'm sure you've heard this all before and I'm waffling on. All I'll say is your blog is fantastic. I realise it's probably knocked your confidence, but I'm sure that after 149 lovely comments all reiterating that we should celebrate you and your blog, hopefully you will reconsider. You have a fantastic figure, and you dress really well! Don't let it defeat you, you have hundreds of supporters!

    xxxxx

    www.scarlettlondon.blog.com

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  151. When I see al these sweet and encouraging comments, I think it's obvious that your readers love you.

    There will always be haters who like to bring other people down. When they find something to hurt you with, they will. The world is not always fair, but with the support of your readers and other people around you, you will notice that they are not worth the attention.

    They are just jealous no lifers and nothing more.

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  152. Thank you for telling those haters what remarks like that can do to someone!

    I'm always worried about posting OOTD cos I'm terrified of getting comments like that, but you've really made me see, that it doesn't matter. <3

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  153. It shocks me so much that people actually take the time to send such mean things! Good for you for taking a stand and writing this post. I just want to say that I adore your blog and style :) xx

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  154. Im sooo glad you had the courage to post this, you're an amazing girl and blogger too :) i hope you carry on with everything and dont let the haters ruin this all for you :) lottaaa love for you! xx

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  155. This makes me so sad to read, I know you are putting yourself out there more than some people by having a blog and posting outfit photos etc, but that doesn't mean that insults are acceptable.

    The people who send you this crap are cowards, and I know it's super easy to say ignore it, but if I was in your position I would absolutely take them to heart. I had a nasty email the other day accusing me of something to do with my jewellery business, I knew I should ignore it because they had me so wrong, and actually were clearly getting all high and mighty about something when really they were just being ignorant, but it made me want cry and get away from the internet!

    You're clearly a very strong person to be able to draw attention to this and I hope this doesn't bring you down too much. For every hateful person out there (that is no doubt jealous of your blogging success, or that they are not such an interesting or stylish person) there are hundreds of good people that want to read what you have to say and see your wonderful pictures. Though most importantly do it for you, that's really all that matters, it's your life.

    *MASSIVE HUGS*

    http://www.rafflesbizarre.blogspot.com

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  156. I don't comment often on blogs, but I felt the urge to do it this time.

    Haters occur everywhere and everytime, whatever one does and whoever one is , somebody is going to hate it and tell everybody so...that hurts, and I totally understand you. It hurts me whenever it happens in "real life", and it must be a million times more difficult in your situation as a blogger, when every idiot thinks he/she has the right to comment in an aggressive and insulting way.

    Just don't let this take you down. I - and loads and loads of other people obviously - absolutely LOVE your style and I think you are beautiful!

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  157. This is just awfull! I can't believe that someone whould write those things!

    You're beautiful and have such a wonderful sense of style that inspires a huge amount of people. I hope that your confidence isn't knocked for too long so you can continue to show us all what it means to be stylish :)xx

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  158. I can't believe people still write stuff like that to be honest; I'm assuming most readers are young adults. It's bizarre and ridiculous.

    You are beautiful, I'm sure they are just jealous of the scale of your blog.

    Don't let it stop you doing what you love!

    xxx

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  159. Goodness I am so terribly sorry to hear that some dreadful people have said such nasty things to you. You don't deserve it in the slightest, you are absolutely stunning, you always wear gorgeous outfits and I love looking through all of your photos, I find you incredibly inspiring! The people who matter will support you through this and just know that you're an inspiration and a really beautiful girl.
    Something like this is going to knock your confidence, how could it not, but just continue being yourself and doing what you love and hold your head high.
    Sending you all of my love and support,
    Love Holz oxo

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  160. I have to say i'm really suprised and saddened to read this post. I've only just started blogging myself and was initially worried about such a backlash but so far so good.. I feel like most of the blogging community is so friendly and welcoming and supportive that it's actually really disgusting to know some people are just out there to be nasty.

    One of the main reasons i follow your blog is because your a real woman's shape, as i am myself.. and i like to read outfits posts from someone that isn't a complete stick so that i can actually see how clothes would look on myself.

    I hope you don't let this awful minority stop you from doing what you love. And i hope your feeling much better soon..

    Lots of love
    Jess - SIZE 14 AND PROUD.

    Jesslorenx.blogspot.com

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  161. Ah, it broke my heart to read this. I wonder what's missing from their lives that they feel the need to spout such vitriolic bullshit. It's incredibly sad that there are people whose only way to deal with someone's success is to try and bring them down.

    Victoria, you are absolutely, ridiculously beautiful with an incredible figure, and what's more, you're talented, sweet and just a downright lovely person. I know it can be hard to accept when someone's knocked your confidence, but you're a bloody wonderful lady and a damn foxy one too (foxy is such a good word), and I really hope you get back to knowing and believing that wholeheartedly very soon.

    Lots of love,
    Emily

    Emily Wears Things
    xx

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  162. Unfortunately when you blog, you open yourself up to these losers who post crap like that. It's actually sad that these morons have nothing better to do with their time than to post nasty comments rather than contribute intelligently. They are losers, immature, people who have no life and their own is boring.

    Sorry, all you can do is either delete them, block comments or try and report their IP address.

    Try to ignore the morons. I love your blog!

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  163. It is so unfair that the nicest people get these horrible comments. Stay strong lovely and just remember that you are lovely just the way you are!!

    You get one life so don't let anyone take the enjoyment for what you do away from you! c: xx

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  164. i seriously do not understand the level of hate you get victoria. every blogger opens themselves up to criticism but some of the things people say to you are just unreal! 'you look like a basset hound'?! wtf?! anyone who thinks its okay to criticise someone elses weight, either for being overweight or underweight, is a disgusting human being. good on you for posting this and standing up to all these idiots. you are such a lovely girl and you look amazing in all your outfit posts. i know its easy to say but don't let them bring you down, they're really not worth it xx

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  165. Typical syndrome of jealous bitches. You're a blogging success and sensation. There is obviously no other way to grind you down other than insulting you. If people really did hate you, why would they go on your blog? Don't know about you but if I hate/dislike someone I'd want nothing to do with them, I wouldn't even want to look at their outfit posts. Don't stop blogging. That's what they want. I love reading your blog and you are such a pretty face! And I know what you mean about people who've tweeted you/friended you. They are the worst kind of sad, weird, sadistic bitches. Wtf is the point in arse licking someone you hate? You can bitch about people WITHOUT being their friend. Jeez.

    Keep writing! :)

    Gemma x

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  166. can't imagine how tough it must be to cope with all of that. think your beautiful and love your blog. your really inspirational, i hope you get through all this and keep blogging xxx

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  167. Guess what you the one doing something useful with your life and not them so FUCK them!!! Can't you see that the person posting the same hateful comments put 'ITSELF' not him or her as anonymous! This is because they do not come from this planet they are animals! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and Never and EVER let anyone tell you otherwise!!! Please ignore them completely and carry on blogging productively. :DD

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  168. It's unfortunate that people who put themselves out there, do what they love and are good at it get so much hate. I read your blog everyday but never comment. I just want you to know that I love your blog - you've got a great sense of style and you look wonderful. Fuck 'em.

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  169. One time, I posted a fotd on makeup alley and people made fun of me. I immediately removed the post and never posted again to that forum. It was so upsetting and humiliating. I recently found your blog from Buy Now Blog Later and really enjoy it. I totally appreciate what you do.

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  170. I was really saddened to read this post. I love checking your blog and reading your tweets. I think you have great style. It's really starting to piss me off that weight is an issue to anyone. I hope you keep blogging and I hope these people grow up and find something better to do than insult someone just doing what they enjoy. xx

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  171. Somebody has got to be in a pretty bad place to have the bitterness (and time to waste) writing nasty things about you. Just let them stew in their own misery and rise above them! You certainly don't want to be anything like them if they have nothing better to do than put other people down...

    You're beautiful and really talented - just keep being yourself and don't let some losers get in the way of your happiness! xx

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  172. Good on you for having the strength to say something about this. You're one of my absolute favorite blogs and I hope you keep blogging because you are very inspiring, you have great style and you're a lovely person. X

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  173. How flippin awful!! thats made me feel so angry that people would stoop so low, your beautiful you dont need to think twice about that my love! and you are most definatly not fat! they must lead a very sad life to have nothing better to do than bitch and rip about other people, you seem a very strong person.. keep it up ..good on you!

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  174. You do not deserve any of the hate that you get, none of it is justified in the slightest! You're gorgeous, you really are. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. For the record, I don't think that you look overweight in ANY of your outfit photographs. You body looks completely healthy to me, if that's worth anything at all.

    Your outfit posts are my favourite, please don't let these people deter you from posting them (there's always a possibility this is just coming from one really bitter person and not a whole medley of different people) and you are absolutely brilliant at styling your outfits.

    I do hope that you feel better for sharing and I'm so happy to see that so many people have reached out to you. Please don't take any of the hate as gospel because it simply isn't true and we all know that! xxx

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  175. I can only echo what all the supportive comments say xxx

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  176. I think you've done the right thing. I find this utterly disgusting, some people are just awful. Hope you're okay hun. x

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  177. This is genuinely awful how much hate you get. Personally for me, I find this so wrong. Internet bullying is one of the worst forms, because you will never know who is doing it and saying these things, and even though you don't know who is saying this, it can still extremely affect you.
    Don't let it put you down, and definitely don't let them beat you. It's hard to say rise above it, because if it was me I would be crying in a corner, and threw my laptop and blog away.
    Keep going at it, you have a huge following.. and by the looks of it 176 other people think the same!
    Haters will always hate.. but in fact they're probably sending these hate mail inbetween signing on and changing one of their 7 kids nappies!

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  178. screw the haters! you have a gorgeous face and a lovely figure and an amazing personality!xoxo

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  179. I cant believe people write things like that, so uncalled for!

    http://whatkimmididnext.blogspot.com/

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  180. A definite fuck you to the haters, as i always say: if you've got nothing nice to say don't say it all!
    I love your blog, your posts, pictures choice of outfits etc.

    Keep powering through.
    lots of love x

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  181. FUCK THE HATERS.

    these people are jealous of your successes and they know it.

    love ya!

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  182. I'm proud of you for writing this post. As you said you're only human and a person can only ignore that sort of personal attacks for so long. The truth is that people who write vile comments like that, especially those who do it anonymously, are actually really hurting about what ever dark place they are in their lives and they can't stand the light that you bring, the confidence that you project. Can you imagine the foul and revolting negative energy it takes to write some of the disgusting things in the picture above? So they try to get rid of it anyway they can and spew it around. The good news is though, that all that negative energy is all their's, it has nothing to do with you. Treat it like acid, try not to let it touch you. Try not to take it personal, because it really isn't. It's their problem. xo

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  183. When ever you post something about the hate you receive I literally can't believe people think its okay to say those things. I would not have coped with it as long as you did, hopefully you'll be rid of the hate now.
    Stay strong and remember many of us that read your blog love what you do and how you dress- wheres the fun when every blogger is the same. Remember you are gorgeous and clearly are a lovely person which is why I love your blog.

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  184. Hi Victoria, I just wanted to say that I love your blog and think you are fabulous - well done for this post!

    I'm glad you've had so much support since posting this because you absolutely deserve - you are a blogging inspiration and seem like such a normal, nice girl.

    Keep your head up high. xx

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  185. Well, I don't know if you've lost followers with this post, but I know for certain you gained one with it!

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  186. simply, i love this blog and you.

    alissa b
    http://alissab.us

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  187. i have been reading your blog for the past few months. i am much older than you, but i love the way you write, dress and inspire. i send you much love and good energy for the other side of the world. even though it might be hard to ignore those people, try to embrace all the love that you DO get from your readers. and remember - YOU'RE AMAZING!

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  188. Hell yeah!! U're a BEAUTIFUL girl, honest, sweet, and cute. U're not anorexic looking, u're not skin and bones, and that is great! What a great example u are for young girls and women all around who are not shaped as starving catwalk models! Go on posting, please, I started following your blog because u are not a size 10, and yet you always look stylish and lovely. I get inspiration from your looks, and I love that u're not a size bellow a 10. Go girl!

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  189. For some reason I've only just seen this! I cant believe the effort some people go to, to make people feel horrible about themselves. Im so sorry they have been so mean I wish there was something I could do. I do really like your blog and I can see how much effort you put into all your posts and I dont see how anyone could say anything bad about them.

    I hope this is resolved soon so you can just be left to blog away about whatever you like and I'm sure a lot more people love you than hate you.

    I hope your okay and your still enjoying putting your posts up.
    Thank you for everything you do for us who read your blog everyday :)

    Khrissie

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  190. honey, i know how you feel but it kills me and makes me boil up with anger that these assholes are making you feel shitty! your blog is wonderful, so are you and so is your style. you are beautiful and this "anonymous" hate is merely a manifestation of the undeniable jealously you make others feel - purely because you are awesome and genuine and your blog - I read it every single day! DO NOT let these losers get the best of you, just keep blogging. BIG BLOGGER FRASSY LOVE xxxxxxxx

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  191. This is awful, I can't believe people are so nasty. And of course, they're only doing it from a distance as they're actually sad, pathetic bullies, probably with terribly low self esteem themselves, so it's makes them feel better to pick on someone else. Trust me, I've been very fat, slim and everywhere in between. I've been called names, shouted at on the street and I know how soul destroying it can be. It's hard, but you have to struggle on, be true to yourself and in the end, you realise that your friends, family and who you are inside is all that matters. The rest is just stuff.
    Keep on posting and putting up outfits. There are more people out there that love you for it than not.

    Jax

    www.whatsimonsaid.co.uk

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  192. Ignore the stupid trolls, you look amazing and have a fantastic sense of style x

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  193. Victoria you are a stunning girl and a lovely person (from what i read and see) - you do so well to deal with that crap people say and you will become stronger for it. You show them everyday that your better than that by blogging and staying true. Im too scared to put pictures up because of what people will say so i look up to you because you've done it. keep your chin up there are a lot of girls out there that love you and your blog. x

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  194. Some people are just vile, and have no other way of living their lives apart from spreading hate and attempting to ruin other peoples'. It's really sad that they have nothing better to do, and don't have the capacity to praise people for their efforts.

    I think your blog is lovely, I love your style, and it's people like you who continually inspire me to keep my blog going!

    I hope that drawing attention to this, and the huge amount of support you have received will make the haters feel as small as they really are, so small they should hardly be noticed in a blogging community filled with so much love and support!

    Keep on blogging and show them a big 'up theirs'!

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  195. i am more overweight then you and always photoshop my photos to look slimmer. the photos from xmas and my birthday last month are still on the camera and i can't bare looking at them on my laptop... got too fat. that's a fact, i hate how i look. time to lose weight, and one thing i have to tell you love - if you feel offended and sad about those comments - you haven't made peace with your weight. you don't accept it and there isn't really a reason you should accept it. healthy is the way forward... now only to find the strength to do something about it, huh? i surely need some...

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  196. Thats horrible :( keep blogging though! Love you site xxx

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  197. Your such an inspiration for a lot of girls out there and your gorgeous too! The haters are jealous.xx

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  198. Mad respect, I don't think I would be able to put up with people being so cruel.
    Loveeeeeee your designer inspired posts!!
    - thank you x

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  199. This was horrible to read! im really sorry that there are people out there that say such hurtful things! chin up Honey! :) ignore them all!

    P.s Big love to your blog! im an avid reader! xx

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